Ministries at Creighton University
Online Ministries Grief
for the Caretaker
Be gentle with yourself.
Remind yourself that you are an enabler not a magician. We cannot change
everyone else . . . we can only change how we relate to them.
Find a hermit spot. Schedule “withdrawal” periods during the
week . . . limit interruptions.
Use it to regenerate.
Give support, encouragement and praise to peers and to coordinator/leaders.
Learn to accept it in return.
In the light of all the pain we see, we are bound to feel helpless at
times. Admit it without shame.
Caring and being there are sometimes more important than doing.
Learn to recognize the difference between complaining that relieves and
complaining that reinforces negative stress.
On the way home, focus on a good thing that occurred during the day.
Be a resource to yourself! Get creative – try new approaches.
Use a buddy system as a source of support, assurance and re-direction.
Avoid “shop talk” when socializing with colleagues.
Say, “I choose” rather than “I should”, “I
ought to” or “have to”.
If you never say no . . . what is your “yes” worth?
Aloofness and indifference are far more harmful than admitting an inability
to do more.
Archdiocese of Omaha, Family Life Office