Today’s gospel might seem almost odd at first glance. It’s a long list of genealogy, tracing the family tree of Jesus. It recounts the ancestry from Abraham, through David and finally to Jesus. The remarkable part is that it contains something not usually found in a genealogy of those times - mention of women.
Tucked away in the rhythmic cadences of the gospel:
“Abraham became the father of Isaac,
Isaac the father of Jacob,
Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers…“
are the names of five women: Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Bathsheba and Mary, the mother of Jesus. What makes this extraordinary is that in the days in which Jesus lived and Matthew wrote this gospel, women were not full citizens and were considered irrelevant in public affairs. As in many cultures until recent times, inheritance came only through the father. And yet very deliberately, Matthew mentions these women. Why? Perhaps because as many scripture scholars today note, all five women had “irregular” relationships with the men with whom they bore their children. Whether a prostititute, a foreigner, a married woman whose child was conceived in adultery, or like Mary, who was pregnant with Jesus before her marriage to Joseph, all of the women had something extraordinary about their unions. And each one of them had something to do with carrying on the family line from Abraham to the Messiah.
How wonderous that God used these women to bring about the Messiah. Each one of them was a symbol of how God uses the unexpected to carry out God’s plan - the coming of the Messiah. Our savior comes to us out of a lineage that is not “regular,” but is certainly human, and in all of it, God is working. It challenges us to look at the ways God is inviting us to be instruments of Gods’ plan today, in the midst of our own less-than-perfect unions.
Advent is a wonderful time to ask these questions. Can the Lord use me? I’m not perfect, I’m not holy. My circumstances are complex, even messy. I’m too busy, too un-focused, lazy or fast-paced for God to use me. I’m not ready. As soon as I get myself together a little more, then I’ll be ready to answer God’s call.
Whatever each of our individual human situations are, the temptation is always, perhaps especially for women, to think that God isn’t interested in using me. Perhaps this Advent is a time for us to discover what initiatives we can take to be one of the women, one of the instruments in God’s marvelous plan of salvation. Perhaps this is a time to notice one of the women in our lives who, though not perfect, may be an instrument of God’s grace for me.
Thank you, Jesus, for this wonderful gospel and the story of the hidden women who are part of your story, your family history. Maybe the “irregularities” of your own past family life inspired you to be more compassionate to prostitutes and welcoming to people in the margins of society. Inspire us with the same compassionate and forgiving love.
Help us to find how we are being called to be a part of your plan of salvation. Let us start in our own lives, in our own families. How can we better love a spouse who disappoints us, a parent or other family member who causes us pain or a child who is pulling away from us? Keep our hearts open, Lord, and help us to love these difficult people and relationships in ways we didn’t know we were capable of. We wait with the anticpation of Advent to find our own role in the history of salvation.
Thank you Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Bathsheba and Mary, women of faith, destiny and courage. Thank you for saying Yes.
Maureen McCann Waldron
The most important part of my life is my family – Jim my husband of 47 years and our two children. Our daughter Katy, a banker here in Omaha, and her husband John, have three wonderful children: Charlotte, Daniel and Elizabeth Grace. Our son Jack and his wife, Ellie, have added to our joy with their sons, Peter and Joseph.
I think family life is an incredible way to find God, even in (or maybe I should say, especially in) the most frustrating or mundane moments.
I am a native of the East Coast after graduating in 1971 from Archbishop John Carroll High School in suburban Philadelphia. I graduated from Creighton University in 1975 with a degree in Journalism and spent most of the next 20 years in corporate public relations in Omaha. I returned to Creighton in the 1990s and completed a master’s degree in Christian Spirituality in 1998.
As our children were growing up, my favorite times were always family dinners at home when the four of us would talk about our days. But now that our kids are gone from home, my husband and I have rediscovered how nice it is to have a quiet dinner together. I also have a special place in my heart for family vacations when the kids were little and four of us were away from home together. It’s a joy to be with my growing family.
Writing a Daily Reflection is always a graced moment, because only with God’s help could I ever write one. I know my own life is hectic, disjointed and imperfect and I know most of us have lives like that. I usually write from that point of view and I always seem to find some sentence, some word in the readings that speaks right to me, in all of my imperfection. I hope that whatever I write is in some way supportive of others.
It’s an incredibly humbling experience to hear from someone who was touched by something I wrote. Whether the note is from someone across campus or across the world, it makes me realize how connected we are all in our longing to grow closer to God.
