Online Retreat - Week 4

A Pic­ture of Har­mo­ny: Liv­ing in Balance

Mod­els of Freedom

This week we move from giv­ing thanks and praise to God — from the big pic­ture of ordered, pur­pose­ful cre­ation — to the con­crete pic­ture of liv­ing in that har­mo­ny of pur­pose, in bal­ance.

Through­out this week, we desire to be inspired by women and men who seem to be in har­mo­ny with the end for which we are cre­at­ed and who seem to use all of cre­ation with this freedom.

St. Ignatius put it so sim­ply:
We should use God’s gifts of cre­ation how­ev­er they help us in achiev­ing the end for which we were cre­at­ed, and we ought to rid our­selves of what­ev­er gets in the way of our purpose.

In order to do this, we must make our­selves indif­fer­ent to all cre­ation, to the extent that we do not desire health more than sick­ness, rich­es more than pover­ty, hon­or more than dis­hon­or, a long life more than a short life, or any­thing at all in and of itself. We should desire and choose only what helps us attain the end for which we were created.

We all know what a hand­i­cap it is to lack the indif­fer­ence, or bal­ance, in our lives that Ignatius talks about. When my desire and choice moves in the direc­tion of “I want my health; I want suc­cess; I want to take care of myself; I crave hon­or and atten­tion,” I know I’m not in much bal­ance and I’m becom­ing too self-absorbed.

How­ev­er, when we see some­one who seems to be care­free in lov­ing, in giv­ing of them­selves, in liv­ing freely for oth­ers, we are inspired. That per­son seems to have got­ten it right.

Let this week be one of nam­ing and being inspired by peo­ple who seem to be mod­els of free­dom for me. As always, make use of the pho­to and the resources for this week. Look back at past resources if you’d like. But, in the every­day busy­ness of our week, we can let our­selves be con­scious of the ways peo­ple live lives of praise, rev­er­ence, and ser­vice, per­haps hero­ical­ly, per­haps in pro­found sim­plic­i­ty. Who are the peo­ple who show us the way to get­ting it right ourselves?

The Grace we pray for this week:
To have a grow­ing gallery of images of inspir­ing peo­ple who live in praise, rev­er­ence and ser­vice for God.

For the Journey

True Free­dom, a reflec­tion by Fr. Lar­ry Gillick, SJ

We are fac­ing a pre­lude or over­ture this week, which fol­lows the pat­tern of the Spir­i­tu­al Exer­cis­es. It is like the open­ing sec­tion of a musi­cal play, which gets us famil­iar and com­fort­able with the score that will be devel­oped lat­er in the work.

The dif­fi­cul­ty with what we hear as open­ers this week can make us a bit uncom­fort­able and ques­tion whether we want to con­tin­ue. Near the begin­ning of the Exer­cis­es, Ignatius dis­plays what he means by free­dom. I know that each of us wants a long life, health, a good name, and suf­fi­cient wealth. It may appear that right here, after such gen­tle prayer, the oth­er shoe has final­ly dropped. To con­tin­ue mak­ing these exer­cis­es, we must already have com­plete detach­ment from such nat­ur­al desires and from life, health, and wealth.

In truth, Ignatius points to the uni­ver­sal human incli­na­tions, which, if not tend­ed to, can dri­ve, dom­i­nate, imprison, and destroy our expe­ri­ence of life. We are invit­ed in this over­ture sim­ply to look at the areas that most com­mon­ly take us out of har­mo­ny. For the first time in this retreat we are asked to check whether we are free enough to face our unfree­doms. It is only when we do this that the rest of the sym­pho­ny of the Exer­cis­es will make any sense.

We must be very clear about this, then; Ignatius assumes that as human beings we will expe­ri­ence dis­or­der­ing ten­den­cies. Can I be hon­est and gen­tle with the uncov­er­ing of what plays such a loud part in my per­son­al orches­tra — that there is dis­or­der in my life’s sym­pho­ny? Lat­er, Ignatius will be invit­ing us to watch Jesus as the con­duc­tor of our own, and the world’s, musi­cal play. When Ignatius uses the term indif­fer­ence, he does not mean “not car­ing.” He is lit­er­al­ly up front about where we are all going by mak­ing this retreat. Here, he indi­cates the areas of “over car­ing” that will take us away from trust­ing in the God-car­ing that is true free­dom. Will we, in time, be freed to watch, lis­ten to, and fol­low the Divine Conductor?

This week we are guid­ed toward a free­dom that will be the result of hon­est reflec­tion and prayer­ful sur­ren­der, but that takes time and God’s good grace. The basic free­dom of this week is the sim­ple recog­ni­tion of our human ten­den­cies, which, when soft­ened by our con­tact with Jesus and God’s ways, become ele­ments of har­mo­ny and bal­ance. “Be not afraid”; the God who calls is faith­ful, and that God is con­stant­ly invit­ing us into the sym­pho­ny of life.

In These or Sim­i­lar Words

Dear Lord,
It was eas­i­er last week. I looked at the bal­ance and har­mo­ny in the world. I could see it in the chang­ing of the sea­sons and the sun­rise and in lots of won­der­ful things that didn’t risk any­thing from me.

But now — now I’m being invit­ed to look at the har­mo­ny, or lack of it, in my own life. I was so struck by the words in the guide­post: “Can I be hon­est and gen­tle with the uncov­er­ing of what plays such a loud part in my per­son­al orches­tra — that there is dis­or­der in my life’s sym­pho­ny?” Some­thing in me is stirred by that, Lord. There are parts of me that are too loud in the sym­pho­ny of my life. I hear the horns too loud­ly as I wor­ry about fail­ing or about being seen as a fail­ure. Drums are bang­ing as I am too attached to the admi­ra­tion of oth­ers, and it feels shal­low because all I want is to some­how give my life to you.

Please, Lord, I beg you. Give me the grace to see how to bal­ance my life. How can I have the kind of calm and peace that the woman in the pho­to this week has? She is sit­ting in a poor clin­ic and laugh­ing in the midst of the tragedy around her. The peace she has doesn’t have any­thing to do with mon­ey, pride, or how oth­er peo­ple see her. She has giv­en her life to you. Help me find that kind of peace in my own life.

But then I get afraid. What are you ask­ing of me, Lord? How much do I have to give up? Can I do this? I am so torn between want­i­ng my life to be in bal­ance and in har­mo­ny with you and not want­i­ng to give up any­thing that I now have. I’m just afraid. In my fear I turn to you and open my arms, ask­ing for the help I need.

Please, God, help me live my life in a way that draws me clos­er to you. Help me give up any­thing that doesn’t do that. Thank you so much for your love and your care for me. Thank you for cre­at­ing me and desir­ing me to be in har­mo­ny with you.

Read­ings

Our Desire for God by William Bar­ry, S.J. from Find­ing God in All Things

Alive and Chang­ing by Fred­er­ick Buech­n­er from Lis­ten­ing to Your Life

Eph­esians 2

Romans 8

Prayers

A Prayer to Begin Each Day

Jesus, Join My Life to Yours by Jean-Pierre Medaille SJ. Hearts on Fire

I Want So to Belong by Ted Loder Gueril­las of Grace

Print­able Week­ly Guide

Online Retreat - Week 4